Tuesday, December 15, 2009

Nickelodeon

I subscribe to emails from this awesome group called, The Campaign for a Commercial Free Childhood (CCFC). There main focus is to stop the marketing to children. If you pay attention, our children are being marketed to every second. If corporate America can get our kids hooked at a young age then they have them as consumers. Fast food chains, toy brands, tv shows, they all fight for our kids attention.

In our house, we do not have cable. We have basic cable, you know, 2, 4, 7 kinda stuff. We don't allow commercial tv to be watched either. That was a decision we made based on what is out there for our daughters eyes to see.

So, CCFC sent me the latest update and these so gets me. Nickelodeon on it's websites are linked up to another site, addictinggames.com. Now, when one site, geared towards kids, is linked to another site, in my book that means they are promoting that site, supporting that site, recommending that site, and it SHOULD be safe for kids. Many of the games on this site are violent. The sad part is that didn't shock me. The shock came in when I saw games called "Whack your Ex", "Candy the Naughty Cheerleader", and Perry the Sneak series which is all about being a peeping Tom and trying to catch glimpses of naked women.

So, if my 6 year old wants to play on Nickjr.com they can easily in one click be on a site with "Candy the Naughty Cheerleader." Seriously? This is what we as parents are up against. Of course, I am adding the link so that you can send Nick an email asking them to pull the link. A New Low for Nickelodeon: Take Action Now But really as parents, I can't encourage you enough to watch what your children are watching. If they play online to have a filter...we have one but all these games get by the filter. Be diligent. We are called to set our minds on things that are pure and let me tell you, there isn't much that is pure on tv these days.

Friday, December 4, 2009

Frosty??

I don't have time to chime in but a friend sent this to me...probably knowing I would put it right here. Read for yourself and take action!


CBS airs perverted 'Frosty the Snowman'

CBS has combined the raunchy television show "How I Met Your Mother" with the children's holiday classics "Frosty the Snowman" and "Frosty Returns" in an ad on CBS's website.

The disgusting result was the video "Frosty the Inappropriate Snowman," in which
Neil Patrick Harris's voice (in character from the sitcom "How I Met Your Mother") was dubbed over Frosty footage.

Harris' Frosty said things like, "We've got to have a bros' night at a strip club" because it's "healthy" and "harmless." He also discussed his "porn collection" and "the Dominator 8000 - the best bull whip on the market."

Well-known scenes of the classic Frosty delighting children by coming to life were perverted by the ad which included Frosty saying, "I have been with a lot of women. Blondes. Brunettes. Redheads. Big boobs. Small boobs. Medium boobs. Some boobs that were big but kind of in a bad way."

The new, crude snowman also encouraged the white rabbit in the movie to have sexual fantasies: "You should have hit that. Dude, your pants were already off. You had a classroom full of people to cheer you on. And you can't knock her up because it's a dream."

The voiceovers also included lines showing "Frosty's" willingness to punch anyone - "I'll punch a baby. I don't care." - and his delight in "scoring front row seats to a lethal injection."


TAKE ACTION

Please send CBS an email letter urging the network to pull this disturbing "Frosty" ad immediately.


Wednesday, November 25, 2009

It's A.....

MATCH!!!!
(follow www.dulakfamilyadoption.com for updates)

Today, we found out we will be parents. Yep, parents. Once again, things unfolded fast. Friday we expressed interest in a situation, Monday we talked to our lawyer and a lawyer in Arkansas where the mom is, today we spoke to the birth mom herself. After all of that, we got a call this afternoon that she would like us to parent her child. It is still so surreal to me. The baby is due in March so we have some time to wait. We do not know the gender of the baby at this time but will find out before Christmas.

God is so awesome. Every step of the way since Friday I have seen God work. Every concern I had was answered with affirmation to move forward. This has really stretched me to trust.

Thanksgiving is my all time favorite holiday. What a Thanksgiving gift. This year, I am thankful to serve a God who works in wonderous ways, who hears the hearts cry of his children, who blesses beyond measure. I am thankful that the Lord has found us worthy to raise another child for His kingdom.

So, what can you do? You can pray.
*You can pray for the birth mom (Pinky). She is in a rough situation and we hope to share Christ with her over the months we have to get to know her before the baby is born. Pray that she stays committed to her adoption plan as it truly is what is best for this child.
*You can pray for this baby. To grow strong and safe in the womb.
*You can pray for us. I don't wait well! That we would step out in faith, share Christ, and be a witness to those watching our story unfold.
*You can pray for the Lord's provision. We are walking in faith that the Lord will provide. We are $10,000 short to complete this adoption and desire to not go into debt to do so. The Lord has always been faithful to us as we have been faithful to Him so we step out in trust here.

My friends, you rock. Thank you for your prayers and support. We love you guys.

Father, you are so good to us. We are so undeserving and yet you bless us and love us so much. Thank you for Pinky and her decision to choose life for this child. Help her to find strength and support as she walks this road. May we have the opportunity to bond with her for the purpose of being you to her. Prepare our homes and hearts for another child to raise solely for your kingdom. For you alone will receive all the glory.


Wednesday, November 18, 2009

All I need....

After a long week of wondering what the Lord is calling us to do in the arena of adoption...to sit and wait? to actively move? to find an agency? One thing keeps standing out. While it doesn't answer any of my practical questions it gives me comfort and hope. God is God and I am not. His ways are higher than my ways. His plans are perfect. He is ALL that I need. I was reminded this weekend during a marriage conference that I so often get stuck in the small story of my life and my hearts desire. Truly, I want to be in the larger story with kingdom purposes, even if that means my heart desires not being fulfilled.

I love this sound byte...I came across it when I started studying the names of God. It excites me and energizes me when I listen to it. Just to ponder the God we serve. He is ALL that I need.

Hope it speaks to you...and you too realize He is all you need because He is everything.

Wednesday, November 11, 2009

Drum Roll.....

I don't really want to talk about it but seeing I post my business I guess I have to post this. We heard back tonight about the adoption situation. While our papers were in route to the agency, the birth mom gave birth. Seeing she did not know there was an interested family, she has decided to parent her son. She knows that should she not be able to there is a family waiting.

Pray for Marlorie and her son. Pray that his needs are number one and that the right decisions are made. I know God's plan is perfect but really, I don't want to hear it right now. Maybe tomorrow. I don't understand the wait when we know the Lord has promised more children. I really think I'd be ok if my poor daughter didn't want siblings so bad. She cried tonight and asked why no one ever picks us. We had to explain we didn't even have a chance, we weren't rejected. God is sovereign over all. Such tough lessons for a 5 year old. Hey, tough lesson for me!

Thanks for listening to the saga. The lesson in this story is that no matter what, God is faithful. The lyrics to Mark Schultz's song stick out right now....He is, He was, He always will be. Even when it feels like there is no one holding me, be still my soul, He is.

Lord, I don't get it. I don't get being so sure of something that isn't. While I don't get it, and don't like, I will choose to trust in your character and not in my circumstances. Direct our steps as we seek what to do next. We desire to walk in your will no matter the road that it takes us down. Help my heart and my head to match up when I am doubting or having a pity party. Thank you for holding my tears in your hand and for loving me even when I doubt and question you. I know, you love me just the same.

Tuesday, November 10, 2009

Test Me... Love, God

2 blogs in one day! I never thought I'd blog my personal business yet here I am. So I was having these doubts today or attacks after I posted all confidently. **If you don't know the story, read the previous blog first** In my head & heart I KNOW God can provide but my humanity, the super planned out self, is just struggling with the what ifs of this situation from the financial realm. In all reality, I can't attend a play date spur of the moment without it on the calendar and I have to sit back seat to needing a massive boat load of cash?

So, I'm doubting and my phone rings. Seriously? My girlfriend Brooke calls and asks "are you doubting?" I'm like yes. She says the Lord told me to call you and encourage you. Same girlfriend who dropped Malachi 3:10
"Bring the whole tithe into the storehouse, that there may be food in my house. Test me in this," says the LORD Almighty, "and see if I will not throw open the floodgates of heaven and pour out so much blessing that you will not have room enough for it"
in my lap Saturday drops Micah 7:7
But as for me, I watch in hope for the LORD, I wait for God my Savior; my God will hear me."
Yesterday the Lord gave me Joel 2:26
"will have plenty to eat, until you are full, and you will praise the name of the LORD your God, who has worked wonders for you.
Yet somehow I'm still struggling. Talk about thick skulls on God's children...at least this child!

So no joke, I get in my car right after talking to Brooke...sidenote: daughter and I made pies today to take to WWII veterans...ya'll should try it sometime. We think we are blessing them when really they bless us...ok, so in the car delivering pies and my favorite radio station is doing their fall giving campaign and what do they say....this is totally paraphrased.... the Lord tells us numerous time in the Bible not to test him, yet in one spot he says to test him...financially...Malachi 3:10...He says test Him, He will provide beyond what we think. Seriously?

Just wanted to share how the Lord reaffirms even when we doubt. How amazing is he? So friends, if the Lord gives you a word, verse, anything in your prayer time share it cause you are all a part of this final story. I love you all and covet your prayers.

Total side notes:
1. I have now noticed I love the word, "seriously?"
2. I have an obsession with "......"
3. Michelle...saw your comments. So glad Brooke told you. I was so sad to hear about the doggie...I have been praying for you guys!
4. If you don't have serious girlfriends who can intercede for you, speak truth to you, ask hard questions like "do you tithe faithfully" (thanks B), and say things like don't worry about diapers and formula...then you need to find some. No, ask the Lord for them...He has divinely given me all of you.

In the Waiting

There is a song I have always liked. It totally applies to my life right this very minute.




Some of you who have discovered my blog know my story. My dream for a big family, the miscarriage of a child, and years of infertility. For the last almost year and a half, we have been certified as adoptive parents with no matches made yet.

On Friday, I came across a situation in Florida of a birth mom seeking a family for her son who is due to be born next week. The Lord has unfolded so much in the last few days. I inquired with the agency to find out if the mom was still looking for a family, because in my mind, how can you not pick a family if you are due next week! We prayed that if this was not for us to explore that the birth mom would have her adoption plans made and the door would close.

We heard back Sunday night that the mom has not picked a family and that we should get our documents sent right away. Our portfolio should arrive in Florida today and today or tomorrow the birth mom will be presented our paperwork for consideration.

So the cool stuff involved in this story: The birth mom and dad are Haitian. My family has dreamed of adopting from Haiti. Haiti's laws prevent us from adopting directly from Haiti for 2 more years. This child, a boy, will be Haitian American. Our church supports Haiti above any country in missions work, my daughter feeds orphaned children in Haiti. My family has a heart tie to the country of Haiti.

Why am I blogging all of this?
1. Though I am trying to stay rational because she may not pick us, I can't. I am so excited that this could be it.
2. We believe the birth mom will see our paperwork tomorrow and we have decided to "declare a holy fast" like the repentant people Joel speaks of in Joel 1:14. We'd love for you to join us in prayer and fasting tomorrow.
3. We need prayers. The birth mom needs prayers. The baby needs prayers... regardless of the end result.

Lord, we are waiting on you. We are hopeful and trusting your plan and leading. Help us not to get ahead of you as we walk this road. Lord, we will step out in obedience as you call us to. Give us strength to wait. Waiting is so hard, especially for me. Help me to keep my eyes on you, knowing you are Jehovah-Jireh and not on the circumstances. Thank you for the godly friends who speak truth and discernment into my life. They have been your instruments to me and I am grateful for their friendship. I will worship you while I wait for you are the only one worthy of my praise.


**if you haven't seen the movie that this video is from, you need to**

Tuesday, November 3, 2009

Grace & Ungrace

I'm reading Philip Yancey's book, What's so Amazing about Grace. Mainly I am reading it because I have issues. I have issues with believing grace is enough...well, not so much that grace is enough but that I am enough. You know, good enough, smart enough, pretty enough, liked enough....I have always struggled with who I think I am verses who God says I am. So, after my Life Purpose Coaching experience, I came to grips with all my "issues" and decided to read up on a few topics, one of which is grace.

Grace is described by Yancey as a gift that costs the giver everything and the recipient nothing. The Bible says, I am saved by GRACE through faith. It is the GIFT of God not of myself (eph. 2:8). Jesus died for me on the cross. It cost the giver (Jesus) everything and the recipient (me) nothing.

As I study the Word of God I have begun to embrace the glimpses I get of what God thinks of me. He created my inmost being (ps. 139), He created & formed me (is. 43) which means I am who He wants me to be. Everything that is in me is on purpose. He knows the hairs on my head (matt. 10), He knows when I sit, when I lay, what I will say (ps. 139). Being dissatisfied with myself or comparing myself to others really is disrespect and dishonor for God's creation.

So, the cool thing about grace? God accepts me, owns me, holds me, affirms me & would never let me go even if he was not much impressed with what his hands were on (P. Yancey). Grace is unconditional.

The problem with Grace today is that we, in American society run on ungrace. Yancey talks about how every institution runs on the notion that we have to earn our own way. We start this model as young as Kindergarten when we test our kids to see if they are "normal," "slow," or "advanced." School papers are returned with all the failures marked. Corporations grade employees. The military ranks people over others. We idolize and hold up models who are starving themselves to reach the ideal. Success is defined by beating out your neighbor, being the best, clawing your way to the top...earning your own way. I come from a denominational background as a kid where I was taught I had to earn my way. I grew up thinking I had to earn good grades, be smart, pretty, perfect...those were the lies I believed by no one's fault but the enemies.

So, when we live in a society that runs on ungrace and earning your own way, no wonder people struggle to grasp God's love and the gift of grace. Yancey said, "The notion of God's love coming to us free of charge, no strings attached seems to go against every instinct of humanity." Our human nature can not understand love with no strings and acceptance without earning it. Yet this is the truth. While we were still sinners, Christ died for us (rom. 5:8).

There is no loop hole that excludes you & me from God's love. No act committed, no words spoken, no rebellion so bad that you are outside of the love of God. So, I am going to rest in His grace. I am not going to try to earn God's love or people's acceptance.

What about you? Is God's grace enough? His grace is enough for me.

Saturday, October 31, 2009

Fill in the Blank....

What an amazing day with my daughter. Some of the things that she says just amaze me. Our children are so paying attention to everything we say and do. As a mom, I love those moments when our kids get it. Really get it. Own it for themselves. Like at a play date when they say, I don't think we should turn the radio on, there may be bad things on the radio station if it doesn't get the Christian channel. Ahhh....music to my ears! Or, mom, why would there be a magic show at church when the Bible says magic is wrong. Love those little sponges! This sponge thing does backfire...my daughter has picked up some of my attitude which I admit to.

So, tonight when we were getting ready for bed we had our prayer time. For a while, we were struggling with our daughter being able to pray out loud. We didn't want to force it but it is important so we can see where her heart is. The Lord pressed upon my heart this cool way to get her to pray that wasn't intimidating and was interactive. Thought I'd share it here. We call it the Fill in the Blank Prayer. Here is how it goes:

Mom: Dear ______
Child: God
Mom: You are _______
Child: says whatever they think of when they think of God
Mom: Thank you for ___________
Child: whatever they are thankful for
Mom: Help me to ____________

get the picture? I ask each question a few times. This has helped my daughter open up and share her heart. So tonight, God was mighty, awesome, exalted and Elohim....seriously? She's 5. Where did exalted come from? Elohim came from the cool song posted on this blog. The cool part was she knows Elohim is creator God. Our children are watching and listening. Ask yourself, What are they seeing and hearing? It is so cool to see through your kids eyes. She describes God in such amazing ways.

She was thankful for her long list of family & every pet ever owned as expected for any 5 year old pet lover. She wants help being obedient. Cool....she does know her obedience is an issue and it's an issue God can help her with. Without this method of praying she never would have prayed about that and I never would have know that she recognizes her disobedience as being wrong.

I normally close her prayer by saying something like...now I'm going to bed ___....and she prays about her dreams. She use to struggle with bad dreams and prays about this every night.

Another cool praying method a friend taught us is the 50/50 prayer (thanks JBACG). Have your child pray something for themselves and then the same thing for a friend. Like "Help me obey my mom & help 'friend' obey their mom too." This helps them to think of others.

So moms & dads....give these a try if you are looking for something new in the prayer department with your kids. My heart is blessed every time I hear what my daughter thinks of God. Remember they are watching and taking the good, the bad, and the godly from us. Be a light to your kids...they are the light of the world to the next generation.

Friday, October 30, 2009

Migraines & Deodorant

I have always had friends who live "natural" lives. Who eat organically, minimize pesticides, hormones, and antibiotics but it was never my thing.

When my migraines kicked into full gear over 2 years ago, I was medicated for more than half of every month. I began to wonder what harm all these medications would have on my body. I became frustrated slapping a band-aid on my problem and never knowing the cause of the issue. I couldn't pin-point my triggers. I started to dabble with natural methods to help my migraines. I did chiropractic care for a year and that did not help my migraines. I did massage therapy every week for months and that didn't help...now some of you are saying...sign me up for weekly massages. Might I just say that these were "medical" massages. I often walked away bruised and with an induced migraine. I had seen my primary doctor and a neurologist all who prescribed medications with no interest in the root cause.

So here is the turning point. I had done everything I knew how to do. I finally caved in and went to a naturopathic doctor. For the first time ever, I met someone interested in what the cause of my problems were. We found my triggers: allergies, stress, and chemicals. I noticed that whenever I drove over the South GI Bridge towards Tonawanda I instantly got a migraine. The odor from the plants put me over the edge every time. I noticed on the days I cleaned my head was worse. I slowly switched my cleaning products to natural products like vinegar and baking soda. Not all my clients were game with this but some made small changes for me.

I began to realize that our skin is the largest organ on our body. Every chemical we clean with enters our system. Every lotion, soap, shower gel, perfume, and make up enters our system. I started researching what was in the products I use. There is this awesome website called Skin Deep were you type in your product and it tells you it's hazard rating. Like the sunscreen I used on my daughter all her life was a dangerous level 9 out of 10. Seriously? I started finishing off my products and switching to lower hazard products. I changed my shampoo/conditioner, soap, shaving cream, lip balm, sunscreen, bug spray (we're campers), cleaning products and laundry detergent. Of course they cost more but my health was worth it.

This my friends, is how I entered the world of natural products and organics. I saw the results of using chemical free products on myself and in my home. I changed my diet...we can chat on that another day.

The biggest thing I did was stop believing what everyone told me and figured out the answer for myself. I realized that no one really cares about my health but me. Doctors don't share all the side effects of medications, pediatricians don't tell you what is really in the needle they are injecting into our kids, manufacturer's don't really tell you about the antibiotics and hormones injected in beef, which shows up in all our dairy. Company's don't really tell you what high fructose corn syrup is. I can go on and on about the things we don't know and we keep putting them in our bodies.

I haven't mastered this. There are many people I know that know more on this topic and live it out better than I do. We make the changes we can. We investigate the issues before us. We are willing to take a stand about our bodies and what enters it.

So, the reason I thought to post this today was because of my deodorant. I know how bad deodorant is. I know studies have shown an increase in breast cancer for those who use harsh deodorants. I have tried natural "safe" deodorants. Sorry, I need my deodorant. But today, for the first time, I noticed on the label..."for DRUG information tear here." What disturbed me today is that my deodorant is labeled a drug. Hmmmm.....now that is something to think on.

Oh, and me? Migraine free for 10 months. As my husband says, the benefits outweigh the cost.

Tuesday, October 27, 2009

Light of the World

Sunday, Dr. Ware addressed the state of America today and called it a "dark" place. I agree with him. Morality in America is gone. The government does not back Christianity. The educational system has removed God from the history of America. We as Christians are called to be the light of the world. We are not to run from the darkness, hid from the darkness or encourage the darkness. We are to engage the culture of darkness and show them the light.

We are God's representatives on earth. Matt 5:14 says a city on a hill can not be hidden. Are you hiding? In today's world, if you stand for your convictions you will be called names. Jesus was the most loving man on earth and he was crucified for speaking the truth. Standing for truth in today's world will give you the label of intolerant. Trust me, I've been called it. So often I think that we don't stand for truth because we care too much about what people will think. That use to be me. I didn't care what non-believers thought...that sounds bad but what I mean is that I would not expect a non-believer to have God's standards on an issue. I didn't expect to be understood or agreed with in the world. The part I had to overcome and still struggle with on some days is the fact that speaking truth among the Christian circle still makes you different. This truth shocked me.

I still remember the first time I spoke about a conviction I had about burning cd's. I believe copyright law makes it clear that burning cd's for others is illegal. Now, the Bible does not say, thou shalt not burn cd's. The word does tell us to obey authority and that thou shalt not steal. So in my understanding burning a cd for another persons use who did not pay for it is stealing. When I stood up in a ministry meeting and said I felt we couldn't give away burnt cd's as a gift, I got some strange looks! Some readily agreed and had never seen it this way before. Some thought I was splitting hairs. Some still "pick on" me for this. Why? It's stealing. I didn't judge or condemn. Just voiced that I thought it was wrong and I would not participate.

Dr. Ware made a statement that is my heart. "We will have compassion for everyone and compromise for no one." Who will you have compassion on? What have you been compromising on?

So, my point today? Be the light. Stand up in the darkness. Be salt. Speak truth. Don't be afraid of what others will think of you. Man looks at the outward appearance but the Lord looks at the heart (1 Sam. 16:7). Don't encourage darkness. Walk in the light so that the world sees you are different.
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Lord God, you are light and in you there is no darkness. You have created me to be the light of this world. Show me where there is any darkness in me hindering your light from shining through me. Help me to walk this day in light. Help me to speak truth to your people. Help me be an arrow that points people to you. Lord, I pray for an awakening among your people to rise up and live as you have called us to live and to love as you love. Lord, you are good all the time. May we, your people be a constant testimony of your goodness.

Monday, October 26, 2009

Do Not Conform

I have so much on my heart today I feel like I could burst. To get it all out will take a few days so hang in there with me as I try to articulate all of this.

For the past year, the Lord has been revealing to me through "Sacred Echoes" (thanks for the term Kem & Kim) the truth about non-conformity. Here is a glimpse of scriptures in my journal during that season...

Romans 12:2 Do not conform any longer to the pattern of this world but be transformed by the renewing of your mind.

Romans 12:9 Hate what is evil; cling to what is good.

1 Peter 1:14 Do not conform to the evil desires you had when you lived in ignorance.

John 15:19 You do not belong to the world, but I have chosen you out of the world.

Getting the picture? To me, the calling of God's people is very clear. We are not to be like the world. I know there are debates out there over how "worldly" we can be, should be, to reach non-believers. Is this a black & white issue or is there a gray area? Here is my take....

Scripture clearly calls us to be set apart. To be different. To look different. To act different. I didn't say to act better or superior. To judge or condemn. It says to be different. Our lives are being watched by believers and non-believers alike. Do they see Christ in us? Do they see the fruits of the spirit? Do they see hypocrisy? Are we living in freedom from "the evil desires of our youth" or are we indulging ourselves in our wants? Does our private life match our personal life?

Dr. Charles Ware preached at church this Sunday. Can I just say he rocked. That man preached my heart. He was amazing. He had several points that tie in with what I am saying here. Dr. Ware talked about how believers should look different from the world. How we are in Christ, a new creation, if we are in Christ who is light (1 Jn 1:5), there should be no darkness in us because the very nature of Christ is light.

So, my point? I believe Christians of today are not living lives that are set apart. I'm not judging or condemning anyone here. As Paul says, I am chief among the sinners. I do believe if "we" Christians lived out the gospel, stood for convictions, and lived as Jesus' hands and feet the world would see a difference. We wonder why the world speaks so hatefully against Jesus and Christianity. Maybe it is because those who claim to follow him don't practice what we preach. Do our marriages look different? Do our kids act different? Do we treat people differently? What difference does the world see? Dr. Ware said that the world does not see Christianity today. I totally agree.

Sunday, October 25, 2009

Jehovah-Jireh

I love how the Lord speaks the same message over and over in multiple settings by multiple people...I don't know if it is because we are a hard headed people or to ensure our understanding of His message. I believe it is a little of both. Either way, I am so thankful for the repeated lessons and the blessing of learning what the Lord wants me to hear.

Today in Discipleship Hour at church, we discussed how God said to the Israelites, "I AM WHO I AM." We talked about how God can not be defined. He is so much bigger and greater than our biggest and greatest explanations and understandings. Lately, I have been meditating on the names of God...hence my song post last week...and 2 names stick out to me. Jehovah Rapha, the Lord who heals and Jehovah Jireh, the Lord will provide.

I didn't share anything in class as no one story jumped out at me to share. Then today happened, so here is my testimony of God as Jehovah-Jireh in my life.

Things have been stressful lately for me. Finances have gotten really tight with our flooring project needing things unexpectantly (like every project, right?), a car needs repairs, and another financial "thing" needed attention. Being on the Dave Ramsey road to no debt living, we are using cash only but it is getting tighter than my comfort zone likes and tighter than planned. So, hubby and I are having this post church chat that goes something like...

Me: I'm stressing over finances
Hubby: God is faithful
Me: Yeah, I know but I'm stressed about finances, time issues...too much for me right now
Hubby: Remember, "My yoke is easy and my burden is light" just give it to God
Me: Yeah, I get that but....

So, in to the conversation steps Jehovah-Jireh. Hubby's phone rings and he sells some stuff he's been trying to unload for the exact amount that is needed for the one "financial thing" that needed attention. Seriously? I'm surprised by this yet not surprised at all. We have been climbing out of the pit of mistakes for some time now and we see over and over again in our lives Jehovah-Jireh in regards to our financial situation.

For me, this shows God's blessings on our desire to live debt free, our efforts to climb out of debt, and His willingness, no it's His joy, to walk beside us as we struggle.

So, Fill in the blank. God is ______________. What has He accomplished in your life lately? Take the time to think about this. And if you can't answer this, ask Him to reveal himself to you. He will. He is always faithful.

Thursday, October 22, 2009

Censorship to Military

I only have a second but I don't want to forget to mention this issue at hand. This issue has been discussed many times but once again, legislation is moving forward and we the people have a chance to act.

Military chaplains are being censored for closing prayers in Jesus' name. Congressman Walter Jones is working on an amendment, H.R. 268, that "ensures that every military chaplain has the prerogative to close a prayer outside of a religious service according to the dictates of the chaplain’s own conscience.” Yes, this means prayers can be closed in any manner depending on who is praying to what god but the bigger issue is keeping the freedom to pray out of government hands. Remember my marriage post? One decision is the start of a spiral.

I encourage you to sign this petition ACLJ: Military Chaplains. It seriously takes 60 seconds if you can type (I timed myself). ACLJ has great info on this issue and many others. Check them out sometime.

Tuesday, October 20, 2009

Who Is God?

Lately I have realized that I don't even begin to see God for who He really is. I know I will never fully grasp His greatness while on earth but this song gives a glimpse into how BIG our God really is. I heard this 2 weeks ago and have played it daily since. Music is food for my soul. The Lord speaks to me through lyrics and this is no exception. It speaks volumes to my heart and I hope it blesses you as it has me.

Monday, October 19, 2009

Marriage Under Fire

This weekend I read Marriage Under Fire by Dobson. It's an old read..like 2004 but I got a swinging deal at CBD for like 99 cents. Can't pass up a deal like that. So I read the book and my initial reaction was, where was I in 2004? Why didn't I see the target on marriage then? Why didn't I voice my beliefs and defend the federal marriage amendment? Where was I? Seeing the federal marriage amendment did not pass I am sure Dobson will have a new edition of this book because if ever there was a target on marriage, it is now.

The book has so many nuggets of truth and points of interest, I'd like to share a bunch for you to chew on. I may be long winded so hold on....

One of the first realities that I had to face was the fact that the traditional family as we know it is disappearing. I knew this but the reality soaked in. The fight for America to embrace gay marriage is gaining momentum. Dobson points out that "there have been periods of history when homosexuality has flourished, as in the biblical cities of Sodom and Gomorrah, in ancient Greece, and in the Roman Empire. None of these civilizations survived." Just think on that for a moment.

Children are living in chaos and confusion. The next generation is seeing a model of pleasure seeking and lack of commitment and values. In the US, census data shows that in a 10 year span, households headed by single fathers has risen 72%, single mother headed homes have risen 25% and households headed by traditional married couples has decreased 25% . The traditional family unit is disappearing.

Another reality I saw in this writing is that one decision or compromise is never the last. Dobson talks about how the decline in the sanctity of marriage started in 1969 when the first no-fault divorce law was signed and the "till death do us part" covenant became optional. At this moment, the law no longer backed marriage as a permanent social structure and it was only a matter of time before "someone tried to do away with the 'husband and wife' part." The point? Every law that is passed is only the starting point of the spiral. I'm not an alarmist but in my opinion the morality of America is spiraling downward fast.

What are we to do? It was said in the book, and I believe it fully, the threats we are faced with today could be the vehicle used for revival in the church. God's people need to awake to the reality around them and begin an even greater prayer vigil for our nation and for marriage.

My Pastor made a statement that resinated with me last week and sure enough the quote was in this book. Edmund Burke once said, "All that is necessary for evil to triumph is for good men to do nothing." That is so profound to me.

So, the question is will you take action or let evil triumph? Pray for our nation. Pray for marriage. My church holds a once a month marriage prayer shield...start one at your church or find one to attend. Follow the politics involved in the changing of the definition of marriage/family and sign petitions, write letters to Congress, send emails. When developments happen, I will have links on this blog for you to act on.

My last note on this subject is from the book..."while we are out on the front lines engaging the enemies of traditional values, let's not allow our homes, our marriages, to go neglected or undefended. What good will it do to fight the foes of marriage in the city square while our own homes and families are collapsing from within?" I encourage you to start in your home with your marriage. Let "us", the Christian people, not add fuel to the downward spiral of the decline of family. I have lots to say on the Christian marriage of today but that is for another day.

"if my people who are called by my name, would humble themselves and pray and seek my face and turn from their wicked ways, then will I hear from heaven and will forgive their sin and heal their land." 2 Chronicles 7:14


Friday, October 16, 2009

Health Care Reform

As much as I dislike going into and following politics, I must. I believe it is impossible for the Christian to separate one's moral beliefs from today's political arena. No matter your stance on the type of health care system we should have here in America, I believe we all have one thing in common.

The current health care bill being voted on still includes publicly funded abortion. Here is one of those issues I mentioned that gets me. As a tax payer...and may I add I pay taxes on every dime I earn...I don't hide my off the books income, I don't fudge any records, I pay taxes on every ounce of income and let me say they tax you very well when you are "self-employed"....I will not pay for abortion. I do not support abortion morally and I will not support it financially. So, what can we do about that? You can sign a petition online. It takes 2 seconds. Focus Petitions I did it a while back and urge you to do the same. Our freedoms are slowly being eroded and many of us aren't using our voice.

I think of the current issue with medical professionals being mandated to receive the H1N1 vaccine. While this issue does not effect me...I am not in the profession so my freedom to choose what I put into my body is still mine, this is one more step over the line of the government telling citizens what to do. The state of New York is not allowing an exemption for religious reasons or medical reasons other than egg allergies at this time. Why do I bring this up? While it doesn't effect many of us now, it will. Next thing you know, you will be told what vaccines your children MUST have...(thinking HPV here). You will lose your right to file an exemption based on your beliefs. In my view, whether you are for vaccines, against, or somewhere in between like me, this is an issue of losing your freedom.

I'll step off the forced vaccine soapbox but it's food for thought. So, back to the topic at hand, Health Care Reform....make your voice heard, stand up for the life of unborn children and your right to not fund something that goes against the God of creation.

***after posting on the H1N1, news broke that there is an injunction right now stopping the mandatory vaccination for health care professionals. This is an important topic to follow so stay tuned for more news***

Thursday, October 15, 2009

More on Me

Before I jump in to one of the many topics on my heart let me share a little more about me and my arriving at the decision to blog. I am a wife...hence my love for issues involving marriage. I am a mother and a homeschooler....hence my love for issues of the home and family. I am also a women struggling with infertility and the loss of a child...hence my love for orphans & children. All of these things are a part of who I am yet they don't define me. The definition of who I am is a Child of God....hence my love for living a life worthy of the calling.

Three weeks ago, I had the coolest opportunity yet to happen in my life. I discovered my purpose. So many people walk through this world wondering what their purpose is & how to make an impact. Life Purpose Coaching is a process of discovering the stories of your life, the gifting God has blessed you with, the strengths you posses, the passions you have. Through the power of the Holy Spirit, these are woven together to help you see & embrace your life purpose. I can't explain it in words. It was the coolest 2 days of my life. The Spirit of God literally drops nuggets of truth into your spirit. As much as I want to explain the process, you don't get it until you do it... you can read about the process here Discovering AND Embracing Your God Given Purpose. All of that to say, that I know that I am called to "encourage and prepare believers to stand for what is morally right and pure and to advocate truth to them". That is my calling. That is my purpose statement. There is so much freedom in knowing what you were made to do. There is intentionality in decisions. There is stepping outside of your comfort zone when you know it is what you are to do. There is obedience.

So, the blog? In this season of my life as a wife, mother, homeschooler and part-time worker, blogging from home on topics that I believe the Christian body needs to become aware of and act upon made logical sense. So, that my friends is what I will be doing.

Sometimes I may get on a soapbox on topics that don't have a right or wrong answer..like chemicals in plastics, pesticides on food, and where McD's really gets their meat from. These issues don't appear in the Bible. What can I say, some of these things really get me too and now this blog is my voice.




Wednesday, October 14, 2009

Here We Go...

I've been debating blogging for a while now. Everyone blogs for different reasons. Some to share thoughts. Some to vent about life. Some to share tips/information with others. Me? I will be blogging about many things but mostly about issues that affect marriage, family, parenting, and the attacks against these institutions from the Christian perspective. My intention is that you will find on this blog ways to act, to make your voice heard should you desire to take a stand for some of the things that strike a cord in my heart. So, if that is something of interest to you, stay tuned.....